Is Positivity Keeping You Stuck?

You’re a positive person. You can find the good in every situation. There’s always something to be learned, always a way you can grow.

But is all that positivity keeping you stuck?

What if just being grateful for all that you have already is a way of avoiding really coming to terms with something that needs changing? What if it’s a way of putting the responsibility back onto the circumstances, or other people, rather than making tough choices?

Maybe there’s a job that’s totally depleting you, one you know that’s not right for you. But at least you’ve got a great paycheque during tough economic times, right? And it’s convenient. It aligns with your training.
Or maybe it’s a relationship.
Your home or your city.

So you should probably just me more grateful. You are blessed. You could be worse off. A lot worse off. You’re just being realistic because life isn’t perfect. You are being practical.

But in doing so, are you stuffing down how you really feel? Are you ignoring what you truly want, ignoring truth that keeps bubbling up?

I certainly had this with my corporate job before I finally left. For me the gratitude became a way of over-functioning instead of making difficult choices. Just doing more – more work on myself, more roles on the job, more fresh perspectives, more gratitude, more hope. More denial, actually.

I think you’re probably grateful enough. I suspect you’ve done enough work on yourself. I believe that being even more positive about your situation is probably not needed.

I believe that you are being called.

And your calling is probably coming at you in an annoying, inconvenient way. And that “be more grateful” script is actually an Inner Critic, only concerned with your status quo.

To break out of this trap, ask yourself, does this ring true for you? If yes, what truth are you avoiding? What decision is asking to be considered? What part of you is trying to emerge in this process? What would your life be with this change?

Here’s to your evolution.

I’d love to hear from you in the comments below.